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When you get more confident you can do it with other people, even your partner!How to Join -Take two comfortable chairs and place them so you can sit close to and facing your Joining partner. Make sure you are comfortable and relaxed. Playing some relaxing or emotionally meaningful music will also help. You can gently hold hands if you like. Now make eye contact with the other person and try to maintain it for as long as you can. You can blink as normal – the intention is not to stare, but to naturally look into the other person’s eyes for an extended period of time. Try to Join for at least twenty minutes. You may find it easier to focus on just one eye – whichever is most comfortable and gives you the deepest contact.At first, most people find it hard to maintain sustained eye contact. In social settings making too much eye contact can appear threatening, but here we are deliberately allowing ourselves to maintain the contact as long as we wish. You may feel embarrassed or awkward or you may find it hard to remain serious and have a strong urge to talk. It is possible that you feel disturbed by this level of intimacy and want to end the Joining.The resistance you may be feeling comes from the fear of emotional intimacy. We are not used to allowing ourselves to get this emotionally close to other people. With such strong eye contact, it feels as if the other person can see right into the heart of our being. We fear that they will know us too well, including all our secrets and any low self-worth. These are aspects of ourselves that we have tried to hide, so we may now be reluctant to reveal them. But remember that it is our low self-worth that causes us to keep ourselves separate in relationships and prevents us from healing our issues. Although Joining can be difficult at first, the process is intended to unearth our resistance to wholehearted connection with another person and then burn through it to find the love and self-esteem that lies underneath.If you persevere with Joining,Women's UGG Chestnut Ultra Short Boots 5225, a number of interesting things will usually happen. You should start feeling some emotion – it could be positive or negative. Try not to judge or control the emotion, just let it flow naturally. The emotion is welling up from your subconscious as well as your deeper unconscious mind. You may feel anger,Women's UGG Pink Classic Tall Boots 5815, sadness, loss or other negative emotions. You may cry – don’t judge this, just let it happen without resistance. Keep feeling into these emotions as you maintain the eye contact. It is likely that you and your partner will mirror each other’s emotions. Look into their eyes and imagine that you are seeing right into their emotions. What are they feeling? 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Some people then go into a blissful state which is full of love and peace - others may laugh uproariously. It is in these moments of intense connection that we most easily experience our higher powers of love, or grace. It is an experience you will never forget! All of us have different styles in the way we feel and express love, so follow what is natural for you.If you don’t reach these higher states of loving consciousness, do not judge yourself. There is no right way to Join. If you can’t feel anything, just feel that as deeply as you can. The dissociation is our ego’s way of resisting the Joining. Even not feeling is a feeling, so embrace this as much as you can. As you stay with the dissociation, another emotion will eventually come up,UGG Classic Paisley Boots, and then your Joining will progress naturally. The idea behind Joining is that we are trying to heal through the various layers of fear and negative emotion that prevent us from feeling our loving essence. Sometimes you may just quietly burn through a layer of pain. As you become more practiced in Joining, you will become much more aware of the negative layers and blocks that stand in the way of your happiness. You may also become aware of the way in which some emotions are contained within specific parts of the body.The ‘emotional body’ has been described in the Eastern traditions of the Chakra system as well as other mind-body systems. We may notice pain or a constriction in certain parts of the body. For instance,UGG Classic Cardy Boots, during a Joining session we may start off feeling some emotional pain, as a knotted or cramped feeling in the intestinal area. As we continue the session and feel more love, those feelings ease and the emotions may appear to rise up through the body. Sometimes they might get stuck in the throat area. As our connection with our Joining partner strengthens, those feelings may then move up and appear to leave through the top of the head. 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Joining returns us to our essential and authentic state – one of love and connection with the people and world around us. The bliss we might feel during Joining is simply the experience of boundless love that is, in principle, in infinite supply. With practice,Women's UGG Ultramarine Classic Short Boots 5825, Joining becomes one of the most effective and enjoyable experiences in a personal development and healing process.
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